Man, I think you should be thankful for what you have. Let the past be just that...the past. Forgive and start again...not start over, start again - there is a difference.

Tell her you forgive her and will love her almost unconditionally...the only condition being that she commits 100% to working on the marriage with you.

I'd shake hands with the devil to have your sitch.

Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!