I think you were right too. You didn't say no to get at her, so no you're not being a winey kid. Like I've told Swashy before, who is getting similar from his XW, for the kids you are there 100%, but for her, no.
And this staying friends thing - in the news you read of couples who have stayed friends after a D, but the reason they make the news is because this is rare. During my crisis my H stated that he saw a future where we'd be D'd, maybe him with a new g/f and me with a b/f, but we'd still be friends. I stated that would not happen. Yes if we had D'd I would respect his decision, but that didn't mean I had to like it.
Your W wanted her independence, and that comes at a price. She fought you for something she could have had all the time. You were not holding her back, she did that all by herself. I still feel sorry for her. No real growing going on there, but for you loads. You are the luckier person in this.
(sorry, bit rambling, hope this makes sense. In short Jeff - you rock!)
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.