respond or stay still?

[heartbreak2]

Thanks ACJ and JMW

I will send a card with a note as soon as I know what exactly is going on so I don't open mouth insert foot.

I have never been close to this nephew. They live 12 hrs away and just not the close knit family type people.

My sister and mom and I talk all the time and we live 3,000 miles apart. H's family never calls not even on bdays or holidays.

will let it go... not going to call him again will wait for him to let me know. If he tells the kids and not me then I will get the message loud and clear that I am not in his life or the person that he cares to lean on.

It is freezing cold here today again .. going to start a big project.. scanning my moms large wedding photos that are 50 yrs old and starting to fade. I will scan them and then make a cd for myself and my sister.
then I will figure out how to do the little ones that I found of my dad when he was in the army. My mom gave me the album yrs ago and I stored it away and now it is time to preserve it permanently on disc.

thanks for the support. I feel like suddenly limboland has turned into stand still again land... I am going to call my L on Monday and tell him no talking to H's L until H initiates it again.

Praying for SIL and my FIL for losing a child is the most devastating thing a parent encounters in life. but I am praying that H turns to me for support and comfort and sees that I am here for him stil.

Wasn't it N2m's H that had a turn around during the D process when someone died??

I lost my dad when I was 22 so I know the pain that my nephew is experiencing with all this news.