She obviously doesn't think that sex is important or fun, and further, doesn't think you're entitled to a different opinion. SHE's the one who is willing to divorce rather than go to a therapist to resolve this issue.
No kids together? She wants to leave over this issue?
Problem solved.
Seriously, it's only when you get rid of your fear of losing her that you have any chance of really working with her. Appeasing her isn't going to get you what you need. Accepting that your needs are perfectly reasonable, that she can either work with you or move on, and that you'll be fine if she does move on, will get you off to a good start.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
