Confusion of a WAW (Thread 6)

Oh the frustation of a WAS not making progress in counseling. My H has been going for over 6 months with not much of a difference. H must have finally realized that or someone told him as he went to see someone else this week. Hopefully your W will realize she needs more or different help than she is getting. Is she still on meds and are they helping any?

She has been on Welbutrin for the last four months - She says it takes the 'edge off' the depression and helps a little with her anxiety, but it really hasn't pulled her out of the fog. I'm not sure if she needs a higher dose (she's already on a pretty hefty dose already), or if she needs a different medication. I'm still curious if she really had a panic attack the other day at work, or if she just had an argument with OM and had to bail out of the office. If she really had a panic attack, that's the first time she's had one in a while.

I agree that the EAs have a lot to do w/ positive attention. I admit I wasn't giving any to my H because I wasn't getting any either. I'm sure when H had two women more than 10 years younger show him some it made them seem attractive. I know they are both kind of homely so I don't think the attraction w/ an EA has to do w/ looks.

Just like my W, your H's self esteem is low - Why would they get involved with someone who is positive, exciting and attractive? Who else other than their spouse, or some loser, would put up with their BS day in, day out? My W's OM picks up other girls and has relationships, but they're all losers too (from what I hear anyway). Your H probably knows that his EA's are not going to find someone else quickly, so it's not like he really has to 'try'. They probably feel as bad about themselves as he does I think my W is unusual, as she actually has a really negative EA - Not that I'm saying an EA is good, but you'd think that unless the overall feeling was positive, they'd give up on it.

We didn't do anything as a couple either after our first D was born. Imagine devoting 15 years to being a mom like you thought your H wanted you to and boom her goes the bomb. I know you and your W are spending a lot of time together w/ D. Maybe you should try a little alone time.

I'm thinking of taking W out somewhere nice for dinner for her birthday (about four weeks away). Maybe I'll have the ILs take D overnight or something. We won't be living together then, but I think it'd be nice for her to actually be a little spoiled for once. Every time she goes somewhere with OM, she has to pay

Need to figure out what to get her for her birthday too... Hmm.