Oh the frustation of a WAS not making progress in counseling. My H has been going for over 6 months with not much of a difference. H must have finally realized that or someone told him as he went to see someone else this week. Hopefully your W will realize she needs more or different help than she is getting. Is she still on meds and are they helping any?
I agree that the EAs have a lot to do w/ positive attention. I admit I wasn't giving any to my H because I wasn't getting any either. I'm sure when H had two women more than 10 years younger show him some it made them seem attractive. I know they are both kind of homely so I don't think the attraction w/ an EA has to do w/ looks.
We didn't do anything as a couple either after our first D was born. Imagine devoting 15 years to being a mom like you thought your H wanted you to and boom her goes the bomb. I know you and your W are spending a lot of time together w/ D. Maybe you should try a little alone time.
