All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[25yearsmlc]

DS,

I'm unclear about what your fear is regarding something you told someone in the past...? You refer to your ex husband, as in, the husband before your present h? Okay, if so, I don't get exactly what it is you fear that related to the prior M.

If I understand what you mean, it's that once upon a time you loved a man, and married. Some time later you got a divorce and told him you no longer loved him anymore, and in fact you never attempted a reconciliation with him...and now you wonder if your h is doing the same thing to you. Is this accurate? Is this because you think the universe is dealing out karma and you're getting what you deserve? I don't think that's how it works.

But if you are repeating a behavior that you displayed in your prior M, maybe you ought to look at whether you create some or all of the pain in your life.

Did you smother either man? Push someone away when they got too close? Obsess and examine with a critical scrutiny? No one can take that for very long. But again, I'm not clear on what you meant so I could be way off.

Anyhow, GAL is for YOU. There are positive byproducts and other good things, but it is done FOR YOU because this is only YOUR life. It's not a dress rehearsal, and already you are how old? None of us knows whether we'll have a tomorrow, and life is short. Remember that saying about our lives being "a book", and ask yourself "who is writing your life's book", and what will the next chapter say...
Be the author of your life's book. Don't let anyone else write the plot or the outcome for you, or to you.
How much of each day do you spend worrying about things over which you have no control? Add that up, and see what you've sentenced yourself to. Try hard to distance yourself more so you can better detach. You'll feel better and you'll have a better perspective on things.

Good luck,
j-