Boundary time: I did not call back. I am not her husband any longer. Hire an electrical guy is my thinking.
But I did know the answer and it was a simple answer. I felt a boundary was needed but I do not want to feel like a spiteful little boy.
A spiteful little boy? You are not her husband any longer, but, more to the point, she is not your friend right now.
Here is the deal: Unless it's something that affects your kids directly, you have a CHOICE as to whether or not to extend yourself to her when she 'needs something'.
If you don't feel like it, then don't do it. If you DO feel like it, then do it.
Think "the annoying friend who always calls you for something". Sometimes you help them, other times you say to yourself "bleah, I don't feel like it".
Now, if you told her "drop dead! I wouldn't help you if my life depended on it!" Well, that would be the hurt little boy.
Instead, you are making choices about who you will extend your help to, and when you will do it.
Nothing more, nothing less. This is your life now. These are the choices she made and the consequences. Let her feel them or you will be robbing her of her life lesson. You wouldn't want to do that now, would you?
