I think I might have read into H's actions/words a bit much. We had a talk tonight. I angrily texted him today when I saw OW called our house last night. Told him he had today to tell her not to call, or I would call her. He *seemed* understand today, but tonight in person he said "We are living as singles" (and spewed about racking up a huge phone bill versus using landlines). I pointed out he claims he is trying to respect me more, but that this is blatant disrespect from both parties. He doesn't see it. I am floored. Don't know whether to fight this one, or let it drop. Opinions? I *have* let him go, per say, so I guess this falls into him living his life.
Anyway, our talk tonight wasn't quite as nice as 2 nights ago. He still thinks we 'need' a divorce, but when asked if he wants one, he can't answer. I am not in a positive place right now. Trying to see the spew for what its worth, but when he left tonight, I cried hard. I just am not sure where he is.