Status 2 - W friendlier but still very distant

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... I was suggesting a more social approach to moving on. Getting out and having fun vs. cutting her off materially if that makes sense.

Naey, Thanks for your valuable feedback and I think I understand what you mean. Dating, dancing and classes are somewhat problematic. I have the kids every other week for the entire week (Fri-.Fri) and so these activities on a regular weekly basis tends to fall apart - I've tried a few and not kept up. Plus it gets expensive.

Maybe this counts somewhat but I try to engage the kids a lot - recently took them to visit my brother in TX, take them shopping, to the movies, rent videos, for ice cream, help with homework, cook for them and visit their school regularly. All this used to be exclusively W's realm and I'm not sure if it helps or hurts my DB cause. And keep in mind the kids have been the primary medium of communication so far. But more recently I've been able to talk to W one on one without her getting at my throat.

I've tried to cut her off materially at least to the extent that I protect my own rights. But many say I should have cut more sooner. Anyway the past is behind me ... I have to look at what can be done NOW.