Hey Rob! - oh yeah, I'm DBing.

Welcome to the club that no-one wants to join!

I'm sure you are feeling all sorts of mixed up. I was like that, too. It stinks. Sorry you are here.

So I am DBing. Am I still fighting? Yes! But... I don't think of it as fighting any longer. Maybe I am fighting.... but it is a different kind of fighting. I am no longer fighting my wife, that's for sure. I used to fight HER, and now I am fighting the DIVORCE.

The difference? I'm not arguing with her any longer.

How many slip ups have I had? About.... a million?
In the beginning I wanted to DB but it just didn't come to me. I was in denial a long time. Also misinformed. Also ... ah, it's complicated.

So here I am. It has been, let's see, 18 months since I found out about the affair. Here's a milestone: I no longer count the months. (I had to think about it)

Be patient with yourself.


M 43
S14 S13 D11 D7
Divorce final: Jan 2009
Making it up as I go....