I hear ya', Ellie. I guess what I mean is that you can recognize that she has her reasons, even if she doesn't know what they are, for only wanting sex 2-4 times per year (or never). All these guys who are in marriages with virtually no sex HAVE been accepting their W's pov, even if they don't understand it. I mean, their actions show that they are in fact allowing her to go on with that pov.* That doesn't seem to be the roadblock... the roadblock is that SHE won't accept the validity of his pov.
*For example, if her pov was that it would be reasonable for her to go out to a biker bar every Friday night and give bj's to all the guys there, I'm guessing the H's on this BB would NOT tolerate that. Or if the W became abusive of the children, or cleaned out their checking out once a month. See what I mean? The H's don't like that she doesn't want sex, but they put up with it.
I guess I mean there has to be some respect for the other's pov even if you don't like it or agree with it.
Mrs hd is convinced that most married couples don't have sex because her sample is entirely from people on the verge of divorce. Hairdog might very well believe her, but he has the counterexamples of the people on this BB.
