ChocIce! Good to hear from you but pull yourself together man.
>I just don't think it's going to necessarily come via your SPOUSE, and therein lies the rub.
It's exactly as Michele says. You can't change the other person you can only change yourself and hope - no expect - them to come along for the ride. It takes time yes but visualizing that future is a lot better than agonizing over the past failures and I have done that just as you have. All the best ChocIce SD
