W has filed for the D,where to from here

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I used to surf when I was younger and have been thinking about getting a new board and starting up again,I've done the snow boarding thing once,it was very hard to pick up.

Getting away for a few days was nice,did help clear the head some,unfortunatly while I was gone my S12 called and told me our little 5lb yorkie had fallen in our pool and drowned,he was balling,it was my D18 dog and she has been in has been out of town all week and doesn't know yet.

My wife was very close to that little dog he followed her everywhere and slept with her most nights(I envied him)but what is strange is that she is trying to be so tough and not show any emotion even though I know her heart is breaking.My S12 did say she went for a walk the other night and when she came back he could tell she had been crying.

That is what has been so hard with this whole M/D she is acting like it's a cold business decision and not wanting to think about or feel the emotional part of what she is doing.

She has always been very loving and tender hearted,cares allot about people,but now she is acting like a robot,at least on the outside.I just want her to open up and let it all out,feel the pain of what she is doing to our M and our famliy.

I just don't know when and if she is going to come out of cold robot mode and act and feel human again.It feels like she has made up her mind that D is what she wants and she does not want to open up for fear that she might have to admit she is wrong.