Aren't you basically saying that couples should take whatever time is necessary to make SURE they're sexually compatible, before making a long-term commitment? And that such a crucial decision needs to made AFTER the "infatuation" period??
Not exactly. I'm saying that differentiated people should be able to control their level of infatuation and the ability to exhibit that kind of control will affect the success of any sexual relationship. I would prefer to be able to choose to fall in and out of love with a man who I was able to like and respect in either case. Therefore, the compatibility I would concern myself with would be mostly non-sexual.
Let's say that you are in control of your infatuation, and also are not "fused" to the other person. But, the other person rarely is interested in sex. Or far less than you. How does this rate on the MoJometer? Also, can you elaborate on "taking more personal ownership of your sexuality". I assume this means not relying on others for validation, but then if you aren't gettin' any it's not doing you much good to have ownership.
Recent threads seem to be asking the question "if I am not fused, and accepting the S drive mismatch as one of the things that happens in life, is this reasonable?" Or, should you do whatever it takes to get what you wanted?
