The worst part is that it wasn't/isn't a real relationship. She can hold on to "what could have been" and romantacize how it would somehow be great, rather than have the reality that this is a younger loser that lives with his mother. blaahh When my wife was doing her thing, I think that things would have progressed better with us if it hadn't all been a fantasy and she had pushed ahead with a real relationship. Probably would have gotten over in a hurry.
I do think that in some sense you could stand to take your cues from him. What is it that is so attractive? I argue it's that he's not available to her. You are and it isn't any fun...no challenge to it.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
