The lionness would take charge of whether or not the zoo is exclusive rather than merely yawning when boys come by and tape "Zoo's closed!" signs on the entrance
Well, I have decided that I am naturally sexually monogamous but not inclined to enforce monogamy on any man to whom I am not married so I haven't quite worked out the upside/downside to me agreeing either passively or actively to a request/demand to be exclusive. In effect, as far as I'm practically concerned this just amounts to a non-binding request to not consider other men until I've made a decision regarding a potential relationship with FSG because exclusivity is not commitment although it does fall into some sort of gray area beyond sexual monogamy.
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Btw, if after a dude assists a woman in achieving many orgasms in a relatively short span of time said dude feels the urge to check if she's dating other men...something's up with that dude. He exhibits a neediness that is as yet unexplained.
It's quite possible that "what's up" is that he is mystified by my lack of typical feminine signaling of desire for exclusivity/commitment in combination with my high level of strong bunny signaling for romance/affection and hyper-active monkey signaling for sex. He can't figure out how things work at my crazy store where the cow gives away the milk for free, demands to be paid for grooming priviledges and doesn't care whether her *ss is branded or not...or he's just trying to insure that he gets some real life action in a couple weeks -lol.
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Better yet have 5 guys do that at the same time and pick the shirt that you like and date him.
Well, generally women will pick the man with the least similar histamine profile to hers. This is probably the method by which Mother Nature tries to achieve hybrid strength. Which partially explains my strong attraction to African-American men.
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(Mojo) He can't figure out how things work at my crazy store where the cow gives away the milk for free, demands to be paid for grooming priviledges and doesn't care whether her *ss is branded or not
Unless he's for some reason desperate to be in an exclusive relationship, what's to figure out?
or he's just trying to insure that he gets some real life action in a couple weeks -lol.
That's independent of being exclusive.
Mojo, I was involved in an LDR much like you and FSG for most of a year (for gawd's sake, get a webcam!). During that entire time we were never exclusive and in fact, we encouraged each other to date, discussed our dates and helped each other get dates. I was as needy an SOB as you can possibly imagine that whole stretch but being exclusive made no sense even to me.
Even now I wouldn't push a local R to be exclusive as fast as he's pushing you. It really makes no sense.
I expect you'll blithely conjure a dozen reasons why his rush-to-exclusivity is as natural and innocuous as mother's milk, so I'll quit banging the drum.
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Mojo, why are you saying he assisted you in having orgasms? I'm assuming you had a "hand" in it, and could just as easily have had them without him?
The exclusivity thing makes no sense to me at all either. What LFL said.
I was in an internet R with a guy and we used to send each other THE MOST explicit erotic emails you can possibly imagine. Both of us were turned on by exactly the same things. He was a very good writer, and these vignettes were hothothot. We must have exchanged ~30 of them. (I still have them but haven't looked at them in years.) Then we met in person: a total disaster. We liked each other. He was cute, but well, he couldn't... you know, and in fact jumped up out of my bed and ran to his car and drove away on the second day because he was convinced I HATED him because he couldn't... you know. It was weirdweirdweird. On paper... on the phone, we were great. In person, fizzle. Just take your own advice and don't put too many eggs in this basket, k?
He was cute, but well, he couldn't... you know, and in fact jumped up out of my bed and ran to his car and drove away on the second day because he was convinced I HATED him because he couldn't... you know. It was weirdweirdweird. On paper... on the phone, we were great. In person, fizzle. Just take your own advice and don't put too many eggs in this basket, k?
Even now I wouldn't push a local R to be exclusive as fast as he's pushing you. It really makes no sense.
It makes no sense if the dating/mating market was perfect, uniform and homogeneous. It's not. Women who share certain characteristics with me are in great demand in certain niches of the market. Therefore, FSG wants to be exclusive with me for basically the same reason that some guys might wait in line overnight to get tickets to the premiere of a Star Trek movie although other men wouldn't bother.
Also, he has a new job that requires him to work out of different areas of the country so any relationship he was in would be to some extent a LDR.
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