Plan B may just work in your case. It's harsh and it's hard to do (It has to be implemented following several months of a GOOD Plan A too).
Plan A basically lets them see what they are missing by trying to meet all their emotional needs(subtley) then some 3-6 months later if they don't take the bait and start working on things you basically pull the rug and force NC.
don't worry about the threadjack. My thread isn't really much about me anymore since I don't update that often right now.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
