Thanks, I'll check it out. I did change the comfortableness this morning when I asked H if he would tell me where he's been evenings again. He said no, he wouldn't tell me. I said then make your list to divide things and we'll review it tomorrow. He said he wouldn't be ready by then (um, it's been 3 years that you've been moving out), and he's emailed and txtd about anything else but our conversation. He refuses to talk to me about any issues we have so it's hard to resolve anything. Like your thread title says, one day at a time has worked fine for me for a lot of years but after a taste of H being around more and now not coming home again, I dunno, I guess I have limits and needs too. Sorry I keep hijacking your thread, it just keeps flowing!
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