Also, before I found out about the A, we were still having sex (making love?). She said that she was mostly pretending to be okay with it, doing it to make me happy. About 70% prentending. So 30% seemed like a reasonable number. We had also made `goals` for me to aid my wieght lose. After 5 kg we could shower togehter again, after 8 kg we could have sex again. (these were jointly decided). Since then I found out about the infidelity with the OM. I have passed a couple of my goals with no response. I think all my pushing I did to find out infromation obviously pushed her away. My question is: if we were ok to plan sexual things, as well as have sex before I found out, have I screwed things up too bad in the 2 weeks since I found out to hope to a return to ..... I dont know the word.. the point were it seemed much easier to mend? I dont want you to think I am sex obsessed, I loved `making love` with my wife, I loved the connection it brought us. This kind of thing doesnt dissappear in a couple of weeks surely... maybe pushed right down, but the love must still be down there somewhere??? I am trying my best to be a friend now. Trying to give her more space. I do ask about the OM in a conversational way, how was he today etc... Is that bad? Thanks in advance. S
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
