Thanks Transformer, that was a good couple of things to read. I like the way that you can read and read and read on here and it all seems like good stuff.
I have decided to change my job, I wasnt overly happy in my job, it was just very convenient.... it allowed me alot of flexibility and a decent wage. It was with my family business. I have decided though that it is better to be poorer and happier than richer and unhappy. Might change my mind when I cant pay the bills.
One of my wifes problems is my family. She feels the inlaws are a bit overbearing. My family is very close knit, and all live within 5 mins of each other. Having come with me to this country, she has no family here. I dont think she misses her family as such, but feels she has no support network to fall back on, you know... someone she can complain about me and my family to (we all need to sometimes). This has gotten better for her since she started her job, coinciding with things deteriorating between us. I asked her what percent of `our problem` was my family, and she put it at 30%. Dont get me wrong, my family have helped us alot financially and otherwise since we came back to this country, and we are both eternally gratful. We just need to get out of their pockets... I feel the same way about this. So we will be moving soon either separatly or together (i hope), and I will change my job. I hope these things work.If we separate we have agreed to live close to each other, mainly to do with the impending baby, but also we remain friends. Anyone else had their family in the middle? Didi it help to move? Thanks
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
