Amy, you are on that subject that we all really struggle with, wedding rings. I've at time put mine back on but honestly it's been in private or when I know I'll be by myself even out in public.
I do at time feel like a fraud without it on. We are still married in the eyes of the law and God. Yet she removed hers right after she got back in the car at Gatwick airport on Nov 8, 2006. Last weekend after I picked up the girls she took down our wedding portraits. She really is distancing herself more and more.
Yet I feel like in order to lovingly detach further I must keep that ring off amongst other things. But this is just me.
For you, do what is best for you and don't let anyone else control or influence you against what you and God know what is best for you.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
I think there are many more people on this board that aren't at the top of the mountain yet, so maybe they don't know what to say. They're happy for you once you get there, but so wish they were there too. I also think that once people see someone doing well, they don't come around as often to offer their support since they think you're still doing fine and made it.
Amy - I actually had a question for you. You're a very strong woman. Sometimes scarily so - which is why when you said before "I'm done and nobody try to stop me" - people tended to say ok, sorry it sucks for you.
So the question is - do you WANT to be kicked if you get like that? I love your ups, but you know as well as I do that the higher the up, the farther the down can be.
And it is funny - if you're stumbling - people are there, but if you look like you have it all under control (like you seem to right now) people might just read and not comment (like I have been)....so I'm sorry for that
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Actually some of the times that have p*ssed me off the most is when you've quoted back something I've said to you...it aggravates the crap out of me but is always timely. When I'm down, it's not about what I "want". It's about whether or not someone is MOVED to say something to me. If they are, then they should no matter if I bite back at first. Those that posted to me at the beginning of the year when I was back at rock bottom made a difference but of course the biggest and most effective kick in the pants came from Upstairs. I've been cruising for this place for months. I'm hardheaded. That's why hard heads post to me.
My sister and I are taking our mother to play bingo tomorrow night. It's kind of a last ditch effort to help my mom get out of her depression. Anyway, 10 dollars to a donut she rips me about my rings. HAAA! No really. I am laughing.
I'm also not here a whole lot anymore. Work is picking up, life is stressful, and as far as what I had for a marriage, I have a lot of closure....interesting thing and not always popular here.
I'll keep kicking you in the pants though - I miss that!
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
- which is why when you said before "I'm done and nobody try to stop me" - people tended to say ok, sorry it sucks for you.
