Hey Atlas,

I think you are starting to see things more clearly now. Except for the fact that you control this mess. If you want her, go after her. If you want the D, then go after it. You still seem to be in limbo, so I think you need to just detach and think for the 90 days. Keep your head clear, pray for guidance, and figure things out.

If you start pursuing her, you have to face the fact that you could be second fiddle (or third, or fourth). She is playing the field and you are in the field. You are not receiving any special dispensation becasue of the M. In fact, I think it penalizes you at this point.

Here is a fundamental question: Do you really want this woman or do you just want that which is being denied to you? There is a lot of "water under the bridge" with you two. You also know how often painful it is to be with her. She seems to be still spinning out of control while you are working on gaining control (of yourself). Are you sure you need the chaos at this critical time?

Best,
--Chris


Me: 40
She: 31
S: 5
D: 3
Married: 8 years (05 DEC 99)
Blow-up: 02 JUN 07
Piecing (More like Ostriching): 22 FEB 08