I understand that you are angry and in my enlightened state I understand it is not with me.
However, I don't understand your post in response to my comment. I was never HD. I have only had a sexual relationship with cac and I was always LD relative to him, even in the beginning. Our sitch is not typical, at least in what we read about here. The more emotionally avoidant person in my R is the one that wants to have sex all the time. That was the point of my post.
But I'm also not saying in any way that I believe that I am innately LD. Not so at all. I'm not sure that anyone is innately LD. I just have no context in which to judge my actual sex drive. One partner, problems from the get-go. No clue. Intuitively I believe that I could have a very healthy (maybe high) sex drive. But my R is not evolved enough right now for that to happen and I can't test it out with another partner, nor do I want to. I hope that my R will eventually be evolved enough that cac and I will trust each other and be truly emotionally intimate with each other. But I also know that may never happen.
