Aren't you basically saying that couples should take whatever time is necessary to make SURE they're sexually compatible, before making a long-term commitment? And that such a crucial decision needs to made AFTER the "infatuation" period??
Not exactly. I'm saying that differentiated people should be able to control their level of infatuation and the ability to exhibit that kind of control will affect the success of any sexual relationship. I would prefer to be able to choose to fall in and out of love with a man who I was able to like and respect in either case. Therefore, the compatibility I would concern myself with would be mostly non-sexual.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
