The End or Just the Beginning? Part 3

[ann25]

Hi Atlas, this probably isn't worth 2 cents anyways... hehe

I think, right now, maintaining your sobriety is #1. Things that cause stress and pain aren't going to help that. They may not hurt he efforts, but i certainly don't see them helping.

You've been there for her over and over again. She knows that you will be whenever she needs/wants you. The only times she showed a significant change is when you weren't always there.

I know that you've said before (a few times) that you aren't even 100% sure that you love her like you did and that you even want her back. You need to decide if that is what you really want...

One thing i will say in your W's defense is that in your first post you said "She seemed excited, said she hasn't seen me sober even a whole week, so if I can show 90 days she says she wants to see who I am and what we are about. She did specify, with a big wall up, that this doesn't mean we are going to reconcile nor are reconciling right now, she wants to see what I am about. So it is up to me." It's been a few weeks. If you do want your W back (since it's as much your decision as hers) you might want to give her the time that will make her feel like you've really chnaged. You might go back and read your first post on this thread. You knew all this was coming, the dating, her waiting the full 90 days.... decide what is right for Atlas and work towards that goal. It may not be W, only you can make that decision.

Hang in there! ann