LL, I would be setting a boundry at this point. Sitting watching TV with a house full of guest at his son's birthday party cant ever happen again. I would be making a strong statement then let it go and be happy, happy, happy. I was quiet surprised everytime I had to set a boundry he has never crossed it. I can tell my H doesnt want me to be upset he wants this relationship to work. I think he will respect you for the new you that you are becoming. Loretta