Got an email this morning from an old college buddy. W & I (and 40 other friends) went to his wedding back in the day. I think he was one of the first to marry.

As I said, the OM in my sitch is my former best friend, and also an old college buddy. Same crowd.

Anyway in this email, my old friend indicated he knew all about our situation, my W and her OM. I'd never talked to him about it. People talk I guess.

It's a somber realization that this "news" is spread so far now. It's a scandal. Our relationship is tabloid material. Tsk. To face the reality, W will have to have superhuman inner strength and willpower. It seems easier I think, to shift blame to me and call me an abuser.

This goes along with the meme I was noticing - the infidelity=shame meme. I posted this elsewhere.