LL...you had a busy weekend and the week preparing for it..you are tired take a breather and re-foccus on what you know...your h is who he is...he does not sound like he is willing to change a whole lot about himself..I am not sure I was willing to until I found the books and the bb...so we all have an advantage to our s..You have to be able to take his faults with all the good that keeps you with him. When my h and I were first married..I really thought I could change him..he would just help around the house, he would become romantic..etc....I yelled and slammed cupboard doors...but we went on pretty happy I think..I came to realize he was not going to change, and he has many many wonderful qualities..he just did not want to do laundry and dishes...I think looking back I have resentment, as does he..that is partly why we are where we are today...I was an at home mom..so I really did not expect him to come home from work and do all the house and kid work...and I never knew how to ask in the right way..until I found this bb...I just asked h to help yesterday for our video club..and he did...
You will have these bad days and thoughts...but you now know how to cope with them and to correct whats wrong so it does not fester inside.If I was to write a book to newlyweds, I would advise them to learn how to deal with issues with their spouses, so resentment and anger does not build up and 20 years later end up here.
