W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

[bhopeful]

You may have slightly missed my point. Forgiveness is for you. It should not be based on her actions or inactions. It's sort of like unconditional love. You can't say "I will love you if..." and still have unconditional love. If she never recommits and this all ends in a D, you still have to forgive her for your own sake. Harboring the resentment is like a slow poison and it will begin to cloud all of your relationships.

That being said, just because you forgive her doesn't mean that she automatically has a free pass or that she doesn't need to recommit to the M in order for you to reconcile. Forgiveness and reconciliation are separate things and should be treated as such.

This is just my take on things. It's definitely easier to write about than to live it, but this is how I'm approaching life and it seems to be working for me. Take it for what you will.

B