I'm with Sage here, LL. Feeling compassion for OW is NOT being a sap. It s a sign of a higher consciousness and a more giving soul, in my mind.
At first in my sitch, I forgave OW pretty much right away (before all the other lies etc came out), but even for quite a while I would pray for her family and even for her. Lately, she just hasn't been on my mind much at all. (Just little ideas and such, as when I was on my getaway).
Honestly, though, were she to turn up on my doorstep, I cannot guarantee my response would be polite
