You've made me think again. Too be honest I don't think I've forgiven W yet.
For me to forgive I'd need to see her re commit. I don't need a full confession, I don't need an admission of guilt, I don't need the gory details, I just want honest commitment. At the moment I don't see this, I see her tiptoeing back into an R with me but leaving herself an out. That's what happened two year ago. I forgave her, she re commited for a while but ran back to OM when things got tough. In fact she may never have broken off with OM and he's been in the back ground all this time, I don't know. That's why I am wary, that's why I'm on my guard, that's why I may have an out burst if we don't have final closure.
I have it in me to forgive, does she have in her to recommit. It's that simple.
PS I hope this doesn't come across as a rant.
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing