Glad you've found some happiness. If only we'd all known it was so easy!!
- Choc, who's feeling really down and skeptical today
P.S. Seriously, I do believe that our subconscious minds direct our conscious minds -- "you will get/become what you think about the most." And, to put it in SSM terms, I think if you commit, and visualize, sexual fulfillment in your life, you can create that reality for yourself.
I just don't think it's going to necessarily come via your SPOUSE, and therein lies the rub.