W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

[bhopeful]

I mean what's to stop me from having some form of outburst in the future about how shes cheated on me and done me wrong.

Once you've really forgiven her, you won't feel the need to ever do this. Forgiving doesn't mean burying the feelings though. If you don't deal with the feelings you will explode. Here's a good article on forgiveness: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/forgiveness/MH00131

How do I know all what's gone on with OM has ended, she may know this in her head but what do I know.

You're going to have to build trust in her again. This will take time. In my situation my W didn't have a PA, but somewhat of an EA. I've come to a point were I don't need to know everything that they did together. It would actually hurt more to know it all. I've been able to find peace with the situation. If she's willing to recommit to our R and be a loving and caring W, then that's enough for me. Maybe you need more from her for your own closure, but I think that you really need to work on forgiveness before you can work on trust.

Remember, forgiveness is more for you. You can't live with the hurt and resentment. They will keep you down.

May there be peace in your mind, heart and life,
B