After nearly 4 years on this board, I still see mostly rejection and hopelessly-clashing libidos. It's just that I also see a great group of smart people who have grown healthier emotionally, and are now much better able to handle the rejection.
Well, nothing is going to change until the person decides they've reached the end of their rope. Hairdog isn't ready to confront his W, neither is Karen with her H. So they will remain in limbo. I think it's fear that holds most people back. Fear of making the situation worse maybe. I don't know. All I do know is that the house has to be torn down before it can be built back up. That's what H and I have had to do and we are having great sex today. So it can work. But you have to be willing to tear down the house and most people aren't. That's why this place can be good and bad. It can be a place to vent but if you are not following through on these feelings in your RL R/M, it can be a waste of time.
