Yes, LL...it is possible nothing happened... no matter what other people say or assume. I have fully now realized nothing happened between my h and ff...at least nothing physical/romantically. He was drawn in and made some wrong choices...but I trust him when he tells me nothing was going on. If that is what your h keeps telling you, please believe him...I too wonder why my h wanted to go out to lunch with "her" and not me, why did he want to be on bowling team with "her" and not me...why..why..why..maybe because they are fiends, they needed to talk in a way that he and I could not..he felt needed to help her with all her problems...I was a little more stable and did not seem to need him so much...she boosted his ego...things I failed to do..it is hindsight when I look back..but I can't change what happened, and I am not going to let it ruin the rest of my life..if he comes home I am going to make sure that I change the things that I need to and hope he will also. You have not been m near as long as I have been..and I wish I could turn back the time and see all the good that h was and we both took for granted.
Enjoy and cherish all the good that surrounds you...
