Balto asked if we were wasting time. It depends on what your hopes are. If you hope to get back to a place of lovey-dovey fusion then yes we are, that outcome is probably not even possible. If on the other hand we are striving to become differentiated individuals who are able to love others in a detached way then I think it does work to be here.
Um, not to be a wet blanket or anything, but isn't this a "Sex-Starved Marriage" board? Psychological mumbo-jumbo aside, wouldn't the most reasonable definition of "success" here be "We are more compatible sexually now than we used to be"?
I've said this before, and I think it's sad, but I don't think these techniques improve sexual compatibility. I just think they help you deal with it better.
After nearly 4 years on this board, I still see mostly rejection and hopelessly-clashing libidos. It's just that I also see a great group of smart people who have grown healthier emotionally, and are now much better able to handle the rejection.
