when you have to ask for what you want

[sage]

oh ya and a recent wording....if I did sleep with her...how would that make you feel better??? I didn't but how would it make you feel better??

thing is it wouldn't make me feel better to know he had...but would make me feel better to know that he could tell me the truth about it.

LL -- When I read this I wondered if what you husband means is this:

You ask if their R was physical and he says "no".

1. He's telling the truth. You don't believe him. You both feel like crap.

2. He's lying. You don't believe him anyway. You both feel like crap.

Point is, doesn't it seem like the ONLY "right" answer is that he DID sleep with her (whether it's true or not) because it's the only answer that you'll accept?

I did this for a while re. questioning H. about whether or not he was still in touch with ow. Simply put, I didn't believe the answer "no" so he was truly between a rock and a hard place.

Sage