here's another thought I keep having and it drives me in circles.
when things are well and I am happy with the r and my "family" I start to feel bad for ow.
what if they were just "friends" ok it was an ea but what if they didn't realize how much of an ea it was..after all her h knew of the friendship...once I found out..I made a stink about it...etc etc...my h left...though she wasn't thrilled with her m...she wasn't planning to leave anytime soon...as things progressed negatively with my h and I...her thoughts of her m started to get more and more negative to the point where she's leaving her h even though mine is home and (hopefully) no longer in contact with her. she is a woman who was involved in an ea her h was not...she is leaving him because she thinks he doesn't love her...would it not look the opposite..after all she was the one to have the ea not him...she is the one leaving not him...I just feel bad for her and her family...but then when I feel that way I start to say to myself..stop it LL..she's getting what she deserves..she's gonna learn the hard way what a selfish little brat she really is..why do you even think of helping her family? she cared little if at all for yours.
I don't know..I flip flop on how I feel about her and what she's now doing..I asked my h if he feels at all responsible for what she's doing and his thoughts were...she'd have left eventually anyway...yes he feels a little responsible but she would have left anyway.
