Just so we are clear husband, you and I agree. Its harder to be the betrayed husband than it is to be a betrayed wife. Some might disagree.
Now you just KNOW guys I am going to disagree with this one. I think it has been just as hard for me as a woman. I think this is a personal issue. Maybe sometimes I think too much like a guy and I know I tend to favour the 'tough love' approach.
I do think it is harder for a guy maybe to take the DB approach. I have great respect for both the guys and gals who have DBed in some truly awful situations. I know that if I was in either lwb or husband's shoes I would never have been able to show the patience and compassion that both of you have shown - but that's just me
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
