I just read your sitch today, and what stood out was that you said that the OW was away for a while which is why H couldn't break things off right? Am I right in assuming that she was away when you and H ML?
If so, then it looks like he used you for closeness and sex as well.
From where I sit, he has no right to call you out on using him for sex. He did the same thing.
Call him on it and see what happens.
And you know what? There is also nothing wrong if you did use him. He's your husband- if you want sex that's where you should go. My H didn't get a clue until I started having sex with him and then leaving his house and not spending the night. He'd invite me over, I'd go eat dinner (his money) watch a movie, have sex, then thank him and leave. I'd be strong until I drove the car around the corner then I'd pull over and bawl my eyes out. He never saw that though. He saw the detached person. I also turned him down a lot too. I took control- that's what you have to see. Don't look at it as using him for sex. Look at it as you controling when, where, how and how often you have sex with him. Tell him no if you want- ask him for sex if you want....
it's your choice- but he used you as well to fill the void with OW gone.
When life gives you lemons, trade them for limes and break out the tequila!!-- Soxfan2007
7/1/05 Bomb 7/20/05 H moves out 2.5 years of Rollercoaster 10/30/07 H moves back home
