Trust me Colorado, my backbone comes and goes on a daily basis! But I have realized the more I stick up for myself and take care of myself, the less I depend on H to meet all my needs and the less crap I put up with from H, the better things seem to go. The more I give in to my insecurities and dependence on him, the farther away he runs. So there is a definite learning curve, and you learn to adapt your strategies. Keep what works, STOP what doesn't.
For me that means avoid the cheeseless tunnel of calling H after an argument. I "chase" him via cell phone with calls and/or texts. I want to fix the problem now. He wants time to cool off. I have learned I am just going to get frustrated bc my calls will go straight to voicemail at that time, and my texts will go unanswered. I end up being the one hurt! So I finally stopped doing that. I am sure you are learning as you go, too.
I will check back tomorrow after school, assuming all of us are healthy and I get to go teach! Good luck everyone, I'll pray for you before I go to sleep....
