HELP!! my 25 y/o H walked out... maybe mlc? HELP!!

[darkestangel]

Hey all! Today was okay, I guess. H called around 5pm to see what we're doing tomorrow for d3's birthday. I purposely didn't answer the phone and let it go to voicemail

I waited an hour and a half to call him back. Since it's raining, I thought we'd take her to the Aquarium of the Pacific, and mayeb the Discovery Science Center since they're both indoors. I wanted to take d3 to the Wild Animal Park, but it's 100 miles away and a big storm is coming, so it's not a good idea.

We chatted for a bit. I asked him when I should pick him up, and he said around noon.

There was a big of friction when he was saying how he has no money. I told him the tickets were like, $20 each for the Aquarium. H says, "So what, you want to take the little money I have? How am i supposed to pay my bills?"
I said, "No, I'll pay for me and d3. but you can pay for your own ticket. I don't want to fight about this but, it's not my fault you didn't go to work last week." I said it pretty gently, but it's true. H only made $178 last week when normally he makes $750+. I don't think it's fair that he blames me for him not paying his bills when he should have and could have gone to work.
H says, "I don't even have money for Jack in the Box, and you want me to pay for this." I said, "Well, I'm taking d3 to the Aquarium. If you want to come, you buy your own ticket. If not, I'll just take the two of us. It's her birthday, and I don't want to argue."

H was being really reluctant. What we decided to do was that tomorrow I'm taking donuts/ cookies to d3's preschool class for a half hour. Then I'm taking her to the Aquarium in the morning for a few hours. H didn't want to take d3 for lunch, so I'll take her for lunch and then go pick up H. The Discovery Science Center is having some Clifford exhibit (???) and it's only $10 a head, so H will pay for himself while I'm buying tickets for me & d3.

I hate that he won't pony up any dough for his own daughter's birthday. I'm sure he's spending money at all the bars he keeps talking about going to, and the clubs and whatnot. He has spent sooooo much money on his video games/ online games/ movies, and so much on his comic books & collectibles, and he won't pay $20 to come to the Aquarium of the Pacific with us.

I kept my cool though and didn't letr him push me into an argument. I'm bummed we're not going to the wild animal park, but that's okay. Maybe it's for the best that we don't spend all day long together. This way, we'll be hanging out for a few hours and that's all

Any thoughts on how I should act tomorrow??? DB says expect nothing, act as if and sound upbeat.