I am not a male, and I personally think when the W cheats on the H, its a MUCH harder role than being a W of a cheater. You walk that fine line of being a 'man'
LWB...... Not to sound like a male chauvinist pig but.........I do think it is harder. I think this because (not that I disrespect a woman as a person) This A$$ hole came into my home at took something that was MINE.... I think the male Ego has allot to do with my feelings......he took something that was cherished by me. Something you can not buy.....Yes I know my wife kind of "gave" it too him but it was not his to take.....Today at work I grabbed a smock at work and a lady left some money in the pocket....(about 25.00) did I take it????? NO... it was not mine to take... I beleave my W was in a bad place.... she was confused... Like some of the women here... I am not saying anyone here would cheat on their husbands but lets face it allot of women here are hurt, they feel rejected, they feel that they have not value.... (all untrue) but.... here comes some guy that fills the void in their lives, tells them what they want to hear, tells them how beautiful they are.It would be hard not to cling on to such a man....ok I am sorry I will get off my soap box now but you hit a sore spot with your "understanding" of the male perspective... again at the risk of being a pig.... it seems that with women it’s more of a completion thing.. But with a man it more his pride...... Either way it's wrong....... I know what you mean about bringing the coffee home, this is something I should think about but I need to take it farther......I do need to make her think I don't care anymore.... It's a fine line.....Ya see people always want what the can't have..... It's like a new toy..... A kid wants it and it’s the most fantastic toy in the store... but after you get it in a few days its old.....Unless you really worked for something it's no big deal when ya get it.... owns it.....As long as Wife thinks I will be around no mater want then why should she commit??? Think of it this way.... If someone gave you a million dollars, you would think WOW this is great.... but if you got a million dollars every week no mater what you did the getting a million dollars would be not big deal. Yes Lwb in the perfect world you would treat other as you want to be treated... but in a married life...... you can’t afford to become predictable.... the mystery is gone and if what you want is going to be around every week no mater what you do then that means you can do what ever you want.... understand????? Not sure I do...
Dr Love.....
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
