when you have to ask for what you want

[MAL]

LL,
I wish I knew what to say to help. I guess I can just offer emotional support.

No, you are not a brat. You deserve to feel loved.

I hope the C sessions are more productive. Maybe they will as your H become more comfortable. It has to be difficult to hold that guilt. I don't know if you saw my thread about what my H said. Just last week he metioned how something that the C said stands out in his mind. That the C was right about OW.

We only had one C session on 10/24. It took 6 months for H to understand what the C said. I guess it just took him a long time to "get it".

I hope your H "gets it" too -- soon.

I like the idea of writing down the good things he does each day. Sounds like a great idea. I guess not only does that give you a chance to validate him, it lets you validate within yourself.

{{{ hugs to you }}}