BobbiJo, reading your story I saw many things that were very similar to my marriage. First off I am in aw of how you have handled it all, you should be proud of yourself and your strength. Letting him get to you and getting angry was just a setback, you don't need to be perfect- Jesus was perfect and he still yelled and threw things \:\) Your Hs response to your anger sounds just like mine- I would catch my H in an affair and I would blow up, he would then say that my rage is the reason he didn't want to be with me anymore. That I will never change....what am I supposed to do grab him and kiss him when I find out this stuff?!?! The cheater will always look to the negative in the R because it justifies what they are doing. We won't ever change and in their eyes they don't have too because our faults are the reason our marriages are failing.

I actually started reading your story this morning at work and I hardly got any work done today because I wanted to see how you handled things and what has happened so far \:\) I was praying as I read that everything would turn out right for you..God doesn't give us more than we can't handle, He knows you better than anyone.

ME 34
H 33
Married 02/11/2006
1st bomb- 06/05/2006
final 01/07/2008