Thanks for clarifying. I have no doubt you mean what you say in your post, but I still do think your words come across as placating, and if they come across that way HERE, I would bet that they come across that way to your wife at times.
Just something to chew on.
Your final paragraph is pretty much what I expected, and I think it should answer your own concerns about whether or not you are "abusive" or a "batterer." It is NOT a coincidence that these accusations are only coming out NOW, not that she doesn't want to end her affair.
