i wish i could say i was surprised. i guess i'm just surprised it happened again so soon.
don't go down the road of what he said/did or OW said/did. it's just fruitless and adds nothing to your life, or the choices you have to make really. although it is an addicting road. as a person who had complete email access to my H's A correspondence as it happened, i am still randomly blindsided by things he said to her coming to my mind (ah, satan. he loves that). And H ended it TWO years ago today. And the fact that i still know the date he ended it, started it, did this, did that, bothers me. still.
point is: you will not get the clarity you need by focusing on what he did/she did, blah blah. your answers will not come from that part of the equation.
you are the only one with the whole story, cat, but if you wrote a bulleted list of what has happened to you since things went bad in Cat-ville the first time, you might see that you're trying to grab a fistful of fog by thinking this man will change any time soon, with no real consequences and his W not holding his feet to the fire.
kick him out, cat.
live your values.
it doesn't have to be permanent, honey, but these people posting to you are spot on: you cannot keep rescuing him, it's only perpetuating this cycle. he knows it subconsciously that he's still safe to treat you like sh!t and live this life on his terms.
no more, girl. you are so much better than this. and your children deserve a safe and happy home, and not a deceptive/lost father and the dynamic that brings into your house.
okay, i'm not going back to edit this and make it nice-nice, so this is just my off-the-cuff reply to reading your current sitch.
{{{cat}}}
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
