I am sorry to hear about what you're going through. But this is a good place with lots of people that will give you great advice!
Here is a collection of all the "best stuff" i've found on the boards-- a couple days I posted a lot of the "classic advice" over on AliSuddenlyAlone's thread. Here is a link:
just scroll down and be sure to read: JenJam's top 10 DB tips
and down through the links to wisdom of the DB ages, michele's articles, and mandatory do's and don'ts while divorce busting!
Have you gotten the book "divorce remedy" yet? If you get it, it will really help you get the most out of this bulletin board.
The very first steps, I think, are:
1. take a deep breath 2. step back 3. re-orient your point of view....
There IS HOPE. But don't push... if you run after her, she will just run away faster. If you stop running, she can stop running too, and ask herself, "wait...why am I running? do I really want to be running? what am I running from?" When you give her space, she can choose to return to your loving arms. If you crowd or smother her, she will only push you away. Give her the option to choose to return. It is REALLY HARD TO DO THIS because it is very counterintuitive because all we want is to hold on to our true love. But you CAN do it!
