I'd like your take on this. When W agreed to the 90 days, she seemed pretty hopeful, but did make it clear that she could and would do as she pleased with her life in the meantime. Such as dating etc. She said I have no right to ask about it either.
I don't know, but after that I have backed off and we have had our little phone calls, but that is all. I do want to ask her out and I think she would say yes.
But I also don't want to attempting to work on things while she is dating others as well. I don't know if she is, and haven't asked. She said no when we talked later, and then reiterated that when she brought up the bipolar bit.
But if I am going to be "dating" her then I don't want to be the OM. I don't know if going on one single date justifies "dating." But I don't want to be a doormate, like I have continued to be. I'm just sick of that feeling and it really kills my DB efforts. What would you suggest I say or do in moving forward. I don't know if bringing it up on Sunday and saying something to the likes of "I'm not willing to be the OM," or something similar is out of line. I know we aren't emotionally M'ed any longer, but I still consider our voes to be just that, and have a hard time with the fact that she could be doing these things and in the meantime she gets the best of both worlds. Could I stipulate that an acceptance requires exclusivity while we explore this phase? Am I out of line there? What is fair I guess?
